The Importance of Self Worth

The purpose of this blog is to discuss women who struggle to value their self-worth and possess low self-esteem allowing sociopaths to rule their domain. 

We live in a world where status and image is the main attraction. We thrive to be like the idols we see on T.V., on billboards, magazines etc. But, never once think that being original or true to ourselves is worth any value. Yes, we gain knowledge and ideas by learning from others, but it should not take away from who we are to become and be. If we don't look like the idols we see or like others, the tendency of developing a poor self-image of oneself becomes who we are. The drastic measures we take to look different through expensive means, is the price worth it? Is there any benefit? The attention received is the thrill seek we journey, but is it all that is needed to be happy, appreciated and loved?

We as women need to know our self-worth first, build confidence and appreciate the good and bad of oneself before stepping into any relationship. Without knowing our self-worth and having confidence, we enter a relationship blindly; believing a sociopaths lies, fake compliments and actions shown to be genuine which only serves to feed on low self-esteem and building their egos. Why demoralize our character and make excuses for someone who takes only an interest in themselves and not you? Ask yourself this question, as I know the answer will be formulated with far-fetched truths to circumvent from actual reality. We as women owe it to ourselves to understand we deserve the best and not just settle on what we  believe is better than the last. Our ambitions must be aimed higher, and not at a slight angle. Why deprive ourselves of happiness and deal with the everyday bullshit that we often complain about, but do nothing to remedy it?

I speak from experience, I was once that woman who allowed a sociopath to rule my domain. I did not know my self-worth, I had low self-esteem and felt compelled to stay with a self-interested man who cared for himself and not me. I believed and fell for the lies, believing the likes of "You're beautiful," or "I love you," because the words sound like music to my ears and because I viewed myself negatively, this made me feel whole. Sometimes, it is our own naivete where we are oblivious to what we should not be in, but not until it is all over you want to slap yourself in the face for being committed to such fraud. I learned that I need to be comfortable with me first, before anything. Also, it is important to know what you want in a person and find it! Never settle because you are tired of looking and jump into desperation mode, as this is causes more harm than good. 

I think about the women  I know to be smart and have a big bright future. But, they settle for toxic waste hazardous to their well-being bringing forth no productivity. They dismiss their family who speak out and want the best for them, but in their fanatical minds they believe they hit the jackpot. Value yourself and not settle for less. Don't pick up baggage that was left over and reclaim it as a prized gem. Think smart, be smart and choose smart. If I had done this sooner, a lot of things that happened, wouldn't. That is the thing about life, it is full of mysteries and surprises. It will be good or bad. But, we must not change ourselves to be with someone. This should let you know automatically, he has a fantasy of what he wants and you are the guinea pig for experiment. Does not mean love. Just someone who sees you as such for the moment.